When Praying Isn’t Enough
Yep. I said it.
So recently, there’s been a family-type situation in which a new mom has been keeping the kid away from the new dad and it absolutely sucks. Really badly. She’s playing dirty and not even trying to hide it. She basically tossed the dad out of her life (in record time, I might add) and replaced him with a new guy. She won’t let her x have any visitation whatsoever (even axe murderers in prison get to see their kids, do they not?) and so she’s just really doing some dumb stuff right now to make him suffer. Unfortunately, this isn’t uncommon, as a certain female I was raised with did the same thing to her kid. She was pretty hell-bent on destroying her x so she poisoned her kid against him. It was so evil. Accused him of molesting their kid…the whole shebang. Unfortunately, that’s not uncommon either and it really is the first thing evil moms do when they want to punish their exes so they can keep the kid all to themselves. It’s a form of Munchausen Syndrome, actually. Moms who abuse their kids so they can swoop in to save them later. It’s sick.
Anywho, back to my original rant. So this new mom is doing her (very bad) thing, and another person came in and commented on a FB post: “Really, we just need to pray for them both and show them both the love of God.”
Um….NO. Just NO.
First of all, if somebody is being an evil bastard, where does it say that we need to toss flowers at their feet and hold hands and sing Kumbayah with ’em and all of that? I don’t think so. My Bible is full of Scriptures that talk about “the evildoer” (in Proverbs) and “the wicked” and all sorts of other references for people who do evil *&^% and none of it says that we’re supposed to encourage their evil deeds by “showing them the love of God”. Nah, man.
There ARE Scriptures, however, that says something about “The Lord will show himself merciful to those who are merciful and He’ll show Himself froward to the froward” and so on. (II Sam. 22:27 and Psalm 18:26)
When I was younger and much more naive, I used to think the best course of action for virtually everything was to pray. Pray pray pray! Pray if you’re happy, pray if you’re sad. And pray especially when you have problems. But now that I’m maturing a bit, I see how that can sometimes be a copout. Don’t get me wrong, praying is wonderful. It’s lovely and necessary. But too many people will use prayer as a hopeful remedy rather than a supplemental act.
I think it’s absolutely irresponsible to tell somebody that what they need is “to pray” (only), rather than rolling up their sleeves and getting to work! It’s lazy. if we simply prayed (again, only) for every problem we have, we’ll have so many more problems as a result, because we’ll inadvertently be shoving our own responsibilities over onto God, expecting Him to do it all.
Yes, God is a big God and He can and will fulfill our needs, but He gave us hands to work with, a brain to think with, feet to run with, and mouths to speak with! He also gave us common sense to know when we need to get off of our butts and DO SOMETHING rather than telling everybody to simply “pray”.
My two week break is almost over and I’ll be hitting the books again soon. I’ve enjoyed the heck out of my little vacation. There’s almost nothing I love more than to kick back with a new adventure game and lose myself in another world. Escapism at its finest! Sheer bliss. 🙂
Until we meet again, WP. x
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Great post MCJ and I couldn’t agree with you more… on all of it. I know someone like this who did this with someone I am very close to. Ruined his life, literally, with time served, name one list forvever, the whole works. I will pray for all of them, but that doesn’t keep me from despising what she did.
On Sat, Feb 16, 2019, 12:40 AM m o n o c h r o m e j u n k i e † monochromejunkie posted: “Yep. I said it. So recently, there’s been a > family-type situation in which a new mom has been keeping the kid away from > the new dad and it absolutely sucks. Really badly. She’s playing dirty and > not even trying to hide it. She basically tossed the dad ou” >
February 16, 2019 at 3:04 pm
That’s so awful…so sorry to hear that. Unfortunately, the people who do this to others will most likely never change or receive help because they’ll convince themselves that they’re “protecting their child”- ultimately buying into all of the lies that they’ve created. I do also pray for people like that, but nowadays, it’s more along the lines of asking God to open their eyes to see their own hatred and destruction, etc. Thanks so much for stopping in and sharing your story as well as your thoughts and feelings. I appreciate it. And feel free to stop by anytime. x
February 16, 2019 at 3:43 pm
i first learnt about munchausen syndrome by proxy via a TV show called ‘the bridge’.
February 16, 2019 at 9:02 pm
I’m surprised I’ve never heard of that show, seeing how it’s American. I learned something new today. 😉
February 16, 2019 at 11:20 pm
Yes. The American version is also good, but the Scandinavian version is the best.
February 17, 2019 at 12:39 am
Yeah, I noticed the creators are Swedish- how cool. I’ll have to give it a watch sometime.
February 17, 2019 at 1:25 am
Warning….it’s very addictive.
February 17, 2019 at 3:49 am
February 17, 2019 at 4:42 pm